If She’s Creeping, Should I Tell???
Dear Egypt,
So the other day I went out to a bar and across the room from me I spot my friend Rob’s (Don’t worry I changed his name) girlfriend. Now I was caught off guard because she was having drinks with some guy I didn’t know. When he got up, I went over to say hi. Immediately she started going on this whole thing about “this isn’t what it looks like ” and “please don’t tell Rob you saw me here, I told him I was on a girl’s night out.” I said “Why’d you tell him that?”, and she tells me, “Oh just because I wanted to catch up with my friend, but Rob’s so jealous, he would have never let me go out with some other guy.” So I said “alright” and went back to my table.
Now, to be fair, it didn’t look like they were flirting or anything, just having a good time. But now I’m wondering if I should tell Rob about the whole incident. I told his girl I wouldn’t, but my first allegiance is really to Rob. So should I tell him? Or if his girl is truly creeping, maybe it’s better if he didn’t hear it from me…….
Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Ay yi yi yi!!! I know this situation WELL and it makes me more uncomfortable than a thong wedgie!!
I had to learn the hard way to stay out of my friends’ love lives unless they specifically ask….and even then I’m still hesitant. Sometimes we may think we’re helping a situation, but we’re really not. People claim they want to know the truth but often can’t handle it and have a habit of shooting the messenger.
Now in this particular situation it DOES appear a tad shady that she would lie to her man about her whereabouts. But when you step back for a second, her reasoning could be legit (Not saying it is…just that it could be).
Let’s be honest, wouldn’t you buck up a bit if your man/woman said they were going to have drinks with a “friend” of the opposite sex?? Damn right you would, unless that friend was gay or ugly as sin!!! But don’t most of us have at least one true friend or long time associate that happens to be the opposite sex? I know I do (strictly platonic) and I like to catch up with them every now and again.
If I were you I would keep this particular incident quiet, only because you have no solid proof. Rest assured, everything that happens in the dark comes to light. So if she is doing dirt it will eventually come out anyway…………What do YOU all think about this one???? COMMENT BELOW
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LEAVE IT ALOOONE!!! *warning*warning*
Never, ever get involved no matter what. Chances are he looves her and after all their fighting on the subject they WILL make up [since there most likely isn't anything going on]. Best case scenario, you will have a hard time hanging out with him afterwards because he won’t want you in his business, or think you were the instigator to begin with.
i agree!
PLEASE LEAVE IT ALONE!IN THE END YOU WILL BE THE ONE THAT GETS BURNED!
I agree with everyone else who has commented; leave it alone. You have absolutly no proof of wrong doing and even if you did, Rob may not be able too handle it and blame you. Do yourself and your frinedship with Rob a favor and leave this one alone.
Don’t worry about telling your boy about what you saw. Just remember…WHATS DONE IN THE DARK WILL COME TO THE LIGHT!!!!!!!!!!
Hey if she’s doing dirt then let Rob fine out on his own.Cheaters alway’s get caught sooner or later and if he’s a smart dude he will know soon enough.Hopefully for Rob sake that’s not the case that she is cheating.She shouldn’t be in a relationship where as she have to lie if she really love him.That’s just my opinion, one lie leads to another lie until you start to believe your own lies.Poor thing!!!LOL
GET YOU SOME BUSINESS OF YOUR OWN AND STAY OUT OF THEIRS… THAT’S NOT YOUR PLACE TO BE SNITCHING ON ANYBODY… WHAT’S IN YOUR CLOSET… I’M SURE IF WE DIG DEEP, THERE’S SOME BONES IN THERE AND A COUPLE OF BODIES… STAY ON YOUR SIDE OF THE DAMNED FENCE.
Open your mouth and you could loose a good friend…or is that a good friend? Deception is a motha for ya. Don’t be the barer of bad news or the hated messenger. Whose to say he’s being faithful while she’s out with her “friend”. MIND YOUR OWN BIN NEZZ!!
I see nothing wrong with having a few drinks with the opposite sex if she say there’s nothing going on,then there’s nothing going on… If thres is something it will come back to bite her in the ASS
TELL HIM ive been cheated on and wished my boy would have told me but didnt now i have no true boy and lost her im over her but me boy that hurt more tell him
There is a good chance that he won’t believe you. Sometime, the cheater will lie on the person who told on them by saying she turned that person down, and that’s why they are lying on her. I personally, prefer to warn people. Even if it means losing the friendship, they have a right to know. They usually, already suspect that something is wrong. Likely, this will be what they need to leave a cheater, and find someone who will be faithful.
YES PLEASE PAY IT NO MIND!!!! I WAS IN THIS EXACT SITIUATION. ONLY DIFFERENCE IS I TOLD MY FRIEND AND SHE BROUGHT IT UP, HAD AN ARGUMENT AND STILL STAYED WITH THE GUY. SO IT MADE IT AWKWARD WHEN I CAME AROUND THEM. NONE THE LESS WE’RE STILL FRIENDS, THAT WAS JUST A VALUABLE LESSON LEARNED!!!! KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT!!! LOL!!!