A recent Chris Brown interview spawned the conversation today about taking second chances on people. He was explaining to Ryan Seacrest how he is a changed man. He says he had to learn humility and grow up a bit. He was 19 years old when he made the biggest mistake of his life with Rihanna. But now he’s hoping people forgive him, and let him grow and learn his lessons in life without holding it against him forever.
I personally believe in forgiveness. Resentment does more damage to the person holding in the hate, than to the person who wronged them. To forgive is to heal!
But don’t get me wrong, that doesn’t necessarily mean that we let cancerous people back into our life. I can love you and be happy for your change- from AFAR!
Let me ask you, have you given someone a second chance and regretted it? Or have you allowed a second chance, perhaps in a relationship, and it worked out great? Have you been divorced, remarried, and now you’re in heaven in your relationship? Or do you believe once a liar and cheat, always a liar and cheat?
Here’s what some of you said on Facebook:
Brent Whiting: Wow! A friend of mine asked the same question 2 days ago. I’ve given someone a second chance because humans make humanly mistakes and I’m not one to throw stones in a glass house. However, do it again and you’re cut from the team. Liars can’t be tolerated once they’ve never learned from their mistakes.
Michelle Shaw: Never in life would I give an ex ANY chance. I’m done with the lies, games and especially the cheating. Imma stock up on sum batteries and a sixteen inch…..
Nikki Thomas: No. Once you are grown you are responsible for your actions. A healthy adult doesn’t need multiple chances to treat you with respect.
Erik Smith: I’ve been in a situation of both circumstances and it was ugly. but it turned out for the best and I have changed, and when it happened to me I was the fool..
Chamaine Collazo: Yes! 2nd & 3rd chances too! If we pray for forgiveness we must be willing to forgive. The difference is in the level of commitment to the relationship & its dynamics. Example: I will forgive a liar, cheat or thief but will limit my interaction with them changing the dynamics of the relationship, or not!
Riley Inge: EVERYONE deserves a 2nd or however many chances it takes to get themselves right. That doesn’t necessarily mean it has to come from YOU!!!! But WE ALL are given GRACE & so I never waste time judging. I try UNDERSTANDING & forgiving. The first to APOLOGIZE is the bravest. The first to FORGIVE is the strongest. The first to FORGET is the happiest.