Would You Break Up With A Selfish Lover?
The old saying goes ‘What’s good for the goose, is good for the gander,’ but what if your goose is stingy with theirs? On last night’s episode of “Single Ladies” Val’s (Stacey Dash character) “perfect guy” turned out to be anything but, when in the throws of passion he announced he didn’t “dine on Southern cuisine.” *blank stare* For Val (and most women living in 2011 and not 1920) this was a major no-no and she cut dude loose. See ya!
But could you?
For most, reciprocity is key to ensuring that your partner’s satisfaction is guaranteed, but some people out there are just plain selfish! They want all the perks of good lovin’ without having to give any good lovin’ themselves. As far as these love hogs are concerned, your needs don’t come before theirs between the sheets, and the selfish behavior can go way past the “Southern cuisine” issue.
Have you ever encountered a selfish lover? If you were in Val’s position, would you suck it up and go without? Or would his/her unrefined palette be an absolute dealbreaker?
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Be careful! You might get what you ask for. Can you go without it or would you endure a horrible attempt? That can be traumatic in and of itself. You cannot make someone do or be what they are not. Does he flat out refuse without an explanation? Maybe there is some history you don’t know about. On the other hand, you absolutely needing a “cunning linguist” , may be considered selfish also. Consider finding a common ground that is pleasing for the giver and receiver. By demanding this one act, you may be missing out on the opportunity to learn something new. See this as a gateway to the next level
I would not end the relationship based upon my partner’s unwillingness to serve me. I would, however, discontinue my services to him. Reciprocity and one’s desire to please the mate will keep the relationship strong. If the sex is the most important factor in the relationship, the lack thereof could break the relationship.