10 Ways To Go From Girlfriend To Wife
Author Steven James Dixon, “claims” he knows the 10 ways to go from being just the “girlfriend” to the “WIFE.” Here are his tips:
Be a Woman All Day, Everywhere
Have respect, pride and dignity for yourself. If you let your friends take advantage of you, so will your man. If you come home crying about your job every day without being proactive about getting a new one, your man is not going to find that attractive. Be sexy, sweet, sassy, feminine and most of all, be womanly.
Be Independent
Not just financially, but be an independent thinker overall. Take the time to learn you and what works best for you instead of taking someone else’s advice and forcing yourself into a box. Your core person should not change simply because you are in a relationship. Be independent of your man and have your own life.
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Stay On Your Tippy Toes
Don’t get comfortable and lazy on your man. Don’t just think that he is going to marry you because you have been together for a few years. Get fine-ER, get smart-ER, be bett-ER. A man wants to see growth in you and wants to be excited about who you will be in the future.
Turn His House Into a Home
As a single brother, my crib had the bare necessities. A woman came by one day and slowly started to upgrade my stuff in a very subtle but profound way because no woman had ever done it before. First it was a couple nice decorative candles; then she replaced my pictures and artwork. She helped me paint a couple of rooms in my house. I was like “She knows what she doing, I am going to marry her.”
Be a Godly Woman
There is just something sexy to me about a Godly woman. You want a Godly man, don’t you? The Bible is a relationship handbook. Read it. Follow it. Live by it. When your man is weak, you need to be able to refer to that word. When the Devil attacks, he needs to know that you know God.
Watch His Momma, Do What She Do
You don’t have to be his Momma, but you should try to be in her likeness. Here is an example: during the holidays when you were at your man’s family home, if his grandma, momma and auntie were all in the kitchen and you were in the den watching the game with him, y’all probably had the best time ever, right? But guess what, he’s probably going to break up with you. You should be in that kitchen with his female relatives or else go and find yourself a man whose mother can’t cook.
Challenge Him
If a man doesn’t have to respect you, he won’t. I tell people all the time, if my wife would allow me to have a girlfriend I would, and I go to church every Sunday. A man is not going to do the right thing unless he knows that if he does the wrong thing it will be met with repercussions and consequences.
Be His Biggest Fan
Women need love. Men need their egos stroked. We need your support, your encouragement, and we need to know that you believe in us. Tell him that he is a good man, that you are lucky to have him, that he is special and better than you thought. If he doesn’t feel like a man, he is not going to be a good man to you.
Nurture Him
The art of nurturing a man has been lost. Talk sweet to your man and whisper sweet nothings in his ear. Hug him, hold him, squeeze him too. Being a Black man is hard but with the nurturing of a good Black woman, it’s that much easier.
Be the Freakiest Person He Knows
Men talk and our number one conversation is about sex. So when a man is rapping with his friend he needs a good story to tell. At least twice a year he needs to have something that will make his boys say “Dang man, I wish my woman would do that!” Shoot, just the other day me and my wife were making this video right and…wait, let me clear this with the wife first before I tell y’all. Basically, a man has to know and believe that there is not a woman out there that is going to try harder to please him than you.
Do you agree with his tips?? Did he miss anything???
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And guess what Egypt, you can do all this and will still be a girlfriend. Or better yet, he’ll marry someone who does none of this.
Danggggg…Renae is right.
All of these things make sense hell even sounds good but you know what the biggest issues? These types of men are not around any more. The men these days want to date you for 4-5 years yet have you cook clean and everything else as if you are his wife. That goes back to the ‘why buy the cow, if you get the milk for free’. These days there are black women playing all parts, mother, wife, friend, support, voice of reason and every thing in between and the men still won’t commit to a marriage; then don’t understand why you feel spending years with a man unmarried is wasting her time. Women, real women who knows how to take are of a home and a man are not getting the 100% that they are getting out of it.
OHHH WOWW>>> I AGREEEEE ALOT!!!
I think the things he stated makes sense and are TRUEEE ways 2 get da RING! lol
I def agree with him, except for the very last rule: why he goin to his boys tellin them what him and his wife did??? what happens between a man and his wife stays between a man and his wife! those are private matters that go on in the bedroom, and they should be off limits to anyone else. Thats just plain respect…
Yea…yea…whateva! I agree to the fullest and I love it. My hunny liked it enough to put a ring on it…step up your game ladies 2010!
OMG…… This may be true !
Steven james dixon is a man who wrote the 10 seps from girfriend 2 wife this is something he may wants in a women or already has. unless he sat down with other men to find out what they are looking for in a wife he realy doesn’t know. But has for the woman if you want that man to be your husband find out what he his looking for in a wife.
Look if a man loves u n treats right n supports u n u do the same thing in return it doesn’t n shouldn’t
Matter if ur watchin a game with him or he’s goin to a museum with u it just means that u both
R interested in each others interest
I don’t cook, me and his momma.can’t stand each other I am a Christian. He is a pseudo Muslim. (Lol) and I’m a stay at home mom so I am dependent on my Hubbard financially. Although I’m educated and can work my point is different strokes for different folks because I’m married, he married me and now I’d like to divorce him lmbo
I can’t believe that you posted this dumb ish. Pls do better
I hate when men always tryna right books about how women can be the wife.. Notice how it sounds like cater, cater, cater and then cater some more until u get the ring.. This auther needs to “SAT DOWN”. We need those same things. This is not caveman times or the 1950′s where the man bought home the paycheck and we cooked, cleaned and educated our children. Hell we are playing their role as well as ours! I expect us to find out each other’s wants and needs and progress from there and take care of each other instead of just takn care of him. We have wants and needs and need catering to also..
Amen. Why should a man marry you when he’s getting all these benefits without committing himself? This article sounds like it was written by a man to keep women ‘catering’to him as said while he goes from woman to woman expecting the same thing without giving up anything. Did whoever write this article get a manto the altar doing these things? If she did, this WORKED for you and I’m glad.
That’s all good IF you are trying to be his girlfriend turned wife. Every man has his own preference of what he wants in HIS woman. Find out what your man wants, do your best at that, while maintaining who you are and you will get your man!!!!!
I want to comment on each “step” if that’s what you want to call it. #1… Be a Woman all day.. Everywhere… This is the most impossible thing for a woman to do.. It’s one thing to be a Lady in the streets, at work, or out in public period.. but when you get home… Hello.. That’s your comfort zone… Being a woman everyday all day is simply for those women who think they are better than God himself… NOT happening. And I always thought that a woman should be able to cry or talk about whatever is bothering her to her man… So like, if I couldn’t come home to my boyfriend/Husband and tell him about my day regardless of if I do it 7 days a week, then i wouldn’t want to be with him.. I’m a woman with feelings.. not a Male who doesn’t care… #2 Being “independent” is so over rated for women. I say this because, most women who claim to be so “independent” are so SINGLE… In my opinion, most men want to feel as if they are needed rather than feel like they are being Challenged to show that they care and want to provide for their family or simply be there for a woman. If a woman never listens to anyone and follow her own advice ALL the time.. the relationship could quickly end. I agree with #3….#4 Not so much… Turning HIS house into a home could be invading privacy for some… but turning OUR/THEIR house into a home is a completely different story… Most men have THEIR house a certain way for a certain reason… and for a woman or gf to just come and try to change it around is just like his mother coming over and telling him to wash his 3 dishes and take out his trash… I’m sure no one would feel manly if they have to be told to do things someone else way…. # 5 I personally feel that no male or female is TRULY a Man or Woman without God.. so with that being said.. I agree with everything that was said… #6 THIS IS A NO NO! Most men do NOT want their Wife to be like their mother.. just like most women do not want their man to be like their dad.. That’s just… not…… attractive… A wife could never take the place of a mother.. but at the same time, I can’t think of 1 man who would want their wife to follow the foot steps of his mom.. 1 that would basically imply that his wife isn’t being herself.. and 2 only Momma’s boys want a woman like his mother.. I don’t think that’s Healthy… now as far as a man wanting a woman to be strong, family oriented, etc. like his mom.. yeah that’s more than fine. During the Holidays, I think every girlfriend should want to be in the Kitchen with the women and not watching football with the men.. #7 Challenge him? I could of sworn that when you get married, You are suppose to be committed regardless..so why should a woman say yes and no to the things her man may want to do… And getting a girlfriend while having a wife… what ever happened to wanting a Godly woman cause she would want a Godly man? Sounds more like a unfaithful man to me… and a HEAD/HEART ACHE…. #8 Be his Biggest Fan… this is absolutely a 2 way thing.. EVERYTHING is suppose to be 2 ways actually… But I wouldn’t have a problem with being my husband’s biggest fan.. mainly if he is doing his THING… But shouldn’t he be my biggest fan too? I mean even if I was a Stay Home Mom… Hell, having his children should automatically make him my biggest fan.. Just saying… #9 This is just like #8.. it should most def be a 2 way thing…#10.. The big one… Being the FREAKIEST person he knows… can quickly end a relationship as well… For many different reasons… 1 I personally think no woman should quickly rush into pleasing her man simply because he will get bored in the long run… Always find a way to keep him wanting more..and each time, make it a little more juicy so that he comes crawling back for more… Also.. when mean think of “Freaky” They think of things we women may NEVER think of.. like 3somes for example… If you allow another woman into your bed.. how much respect do you think your man will have for you? If you allow another man in the bed… How much respect do you have for yourself? A man should love you regardless of how “freaky” you are.. sex is a extracurricular activity…. And for the record… LADIES… if a man wants you to do ALL of these things… JUST to become his wife… he isn’t worth it… That’s my personal opinion…
I agree with all comments. And to add: a man is going to marry you when he feels like it. You can do all of these things for a good man and he will still take his good ass time.
Men get married when they are ready, not convinced. I did none of these things. We just celebrated 11 years!
I don’t no how old Jah B is I’m 25 but let me say well done very well said I wish I had someone in my life as a friend who gave me strong advise like that I def agree with everything u said it all makes complete since u have def opened my eyes a lil to some things im my life that i should probably pay attention to weather I am invovled with a partner or not thanks.
Also for the record this is the best advise someone like u could have gave to someone like me needed it so once again thanks God Bless.
Awwww… thank yous o much… you really made me feel like I have accomplished something…. Oh and by the way, I am 20.. I’ll be 21 in May….. You take care Cutie Miss….. God bless you as well…
How about not being jealous and sharing him
The main reason men aren’t marrying in the “monogamy” marriage demands.
Take away the monogamy requirement and say something like this: you may screw anyone but love only me. And you’ll be WIFE today.
You know if that works for some woman out there cudos to you. I have been married for 26 years and pretty much did all 10 and more. Men Love all that a woman have to offer wether they are a housewife or has a 9 to 5. Of course I did both. It was not appreciated and was all taken for granted. Being freaky with you man only makes him want a bigger or better freak. Jealousy comes with accomplishments. and the friends knows all of the privacy not only in the bedroom but in the househould aswell. I say just be you and if that man don’t like what he is dating enough to marry than thank yourself for not getting married anyway because it will only cause heart aches in the end. “Because it will end”. By the way who wants a to put a top 10 list on what they want from a woman in order to marry her? I say some one thats insecure. ladies let us not be labeled for a man. Let’s be what we are strong woman.
I agree with everything except the cooking part, I don’t think you have to be in the kitchen with his mom and if your not that doesn’t mean you cannot cook or that is mother is such a great cook. I cook dinner 7 days a week breakfast and lunch 3-5 days a week, I work as a Director for a non profit company and I have 3 kids and go to the gym. So yes the rest seems correct to me because when we have a good man especially a good black man we have to continue to do what we did to get him to keep him.
Renea has said it all!
neat stuff, cheers man